A Cry in the Dark

Monday, September 04, 2006

does arousal mean i really want it?

He and I have had this conversation many, many times. Yet the subject manages to come up again and again.

There are many things I can read about (or watch) that will arouse me. Things I am certain I am not interested in at all. Gang bangs, branding, edge play and breath play are some of them. When someone writes about their experiences, I can become very aroused when reading them. It’s also happened while watching videos. I tend to think that my arousal is more from an empathy with the submissive. Seeing them become aroused by the activity sparks my own. The raw sexuality can reach out and create a need that isn’t necessarily linked to the activity. It’s the emotion, not the action, which creates my own arousal.

He contends that there is a yearning for the activity, possibly subconsciously. If I wasn’t interested in participating, then I wouldn’t become aroused. While I concede that may be the case at times, I can’t believe that it is always the case. I shudder at the thought of someone coming near me with a knife. That is an area that is so psychologically sensitive for me that I can’t believe I would ever desire to participate in edge play.

I’m very interested in hearing anyone else’s thoughts on this topic. Has anyone had any experience with this? What was the outcome?

Posted by WistfulWench :: 5:11 PM :: 7 comments