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remember this hot commercial?
There is this cool site shown on Sita's blog that I checked out yesterday. I found this video and had to share it. I remember enjoying the commercial then and still found it interesting. The fusion of three very different musical talents into a cohesive piece.
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Friday, May 12, 2006
so far, so good....
I'm going to risk a shoulder injury and pat myself on the back today! It's not quite 8am, and I've already read and commented on some blogs, taken a shower, gone to the gym, taken another shower, eaten breakfast, responded to work e-mails, picked up voice mail and started three separate queries.... I am rocking and rolling today!
I've found a couple of sites I thought I'd share. They are both tools I'm using to change my eating and activity habits towards a healthier life. Let me know if you decide they're helpful to you! Another little tip? Sugar free fudgesicles are only 40 calories each.... Helps that chocolate urge!
fitwatch
hungry-girl
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Thursday, May 11, 2006
i don’t do spontaneous very well.....
How do you become a person who can be spontaneous?
I’ve always been someone who needs to have a routine, order, schedules in my life. When my routine is interrupted, I tend to go into a tail spin and feel as though I’m out of control.
Can you learn to do things on a whim? Is it possible to allow yourself the “freedom” to throw the plans out the window with no worry or consideration? Or is this just a personality trait that you either have or don’t have?
*sigh* There are times I wish spontaneity was something I actually COULD do....
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Tuesday, May 09, 2006
for FellaHere....
Since you shared your Smokey with us here....
The Secret Purr of Smokey
I'll share my Smokey with you here....
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you remember that mop?
Well, I found a reason to use it!
I mopped my balcony the other day. Maybe that's why I bought it in the first place?
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Sunday, May 07, 2006
freedom in enclosure....
When he physically restrains me, there is always that little shiver that goes through my stomach. It’s strange, really. I love it when I am bound, unable to get away from him and the sensations he creates. There is a liberty in being restricted in my actions. Somehow, it forces me to focus more on my responses, magnifying the pleasure I receive. Even better is the knowledge that he will continue in his actions until HE is satisfied. I can do nothing but feel, feel, feel....
Recently, I’ve noticed that there is a comfort in being bound by his words. When he tells me not to worry about something, it becomes much easier to walk away from the problem. He has recently required me to add some activities to my weekly schedule. While I struggled to incorporate them initially, it has now become easier to accept his authority on those matters. It seems as though he makes it possible to put down that responsibility of being an adult and adopt a more care-free, child-like outlook on life....
For some reason, setting more boundaries, enclosing me further with his words and actions, seems to liberate me in so many ways. I am feeling lighter, happier, much less stressed. That sense of joy in my day has returned. There is freedom in his enclosure....
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Saturday, May 06, 2006
independent submission....
It sounds like an oxymoron, I know. But that is the term that came to mind while I was trying to find a manner of explaining his control of my life and my submission to him.
He is not interested in a plastic “Stepford” submissive. While I would sometimes prefer he just tell me what to do in certain situations, he tends to force me to evaluate all the options and then come to a decision. Where I find it easier to ignore health or emotional issues, he insists I take corrective action to become healthier. I know that this is because he feels it is very important that I be able to take care of myself appropriately. There is more to it than that, though.
I’ve always found it easier to take care of others, leaving myself for last. Putting my needs and wants as a priority has always felt somehow “wrong” and selfish. This has been an issue in my personal and professional life. Learning to say “no” was a significant effort for me. Even after learning that the world didn’t end if I uttered it, I still found it difficult to say very frequently. My time was slowly allocated more and more to work and other activities that brought little personal benefit.
Something I said in RnC’s blog the other day started some thoughts running around in my head. I had initially said that there were days when I lost all control. I had to back up and re-state what I meant, which was that I was trying to wrest control away from him. Those are the days when I stumble the most and struggle with my submission.
The light bulb started to glimmer.... He had been very insistent that I ignore the phone and turn the laptop off when I was with him. My time with him was his and no one else’s. All of our discussions about my job situation came back to mind, running in fast motion. He had consistently stated that I needed to accept that I could only do what I could do and stop trying to do it all. He understood my pain, but continued to encourage me to let it go. Let it go. Three simple little words that took so long to sink in to my brain....
I’ve had a much better attitude at work the last couple of weeks. Unfortunately, it wasn’t because I was smart enough to understand what he was trying to tell me. It took conversations with co-workers who said the same thing, chats with submissive friends who said the same thing, and finally the switch flipped and the light bulb came on, full force and as bright as day. Let it go. I am not the one in control. Giving it up has once again given me the freedom and ability to focus on what it is I enjoy about my job. Once I stopped struggling to do it all MY way, it became easier to do. I don’t have to make the decisions, I just need to follow the guidance and direction I’m given.
I know that this has been a somewhat meandering posting so far. But I do have a point! He wants me to be comfortable with giving up control, as he recognizes it as a burden to me. By taking it in my personal life, he has shown me that I can actually achieve so much more than I would allow myself to believe. This recent work situation has also shown me that the same thought processes can also allow me to have professional gratification I thought I had lost. It is teaching me to be who I am, independently, without having to rely totally on him.
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Friday, May 05, 2006
control tag responses....
This was a tag from the other site. There are some thoughts floating around in my head lately about this topic. As I read my responses, I decided to post them again. Hopefully, this will help the whisps coalesce into something I can verbalize!
What is control to you? For me, control means that I will follow his wishes and directives, whether he is present or not. We have spent, and continue to spend, a considerable amount of time talking about ourselves, our desires, our needs. I trust him to direct me in a manner that is not only in my best interests, but in his, as well. Knowing he wants me to be strong, independent, and capable of handling life on my own makes it easier for me. He takes such pride in my accomplishments that I WANT to improve my skills, try for those objectives, reach further than I would dare to do on my own. There have been situations where I wish he would just tell me what to do. Instead, he will discuss it with me and guide me to a decision. He is not interested in detailing every single action I take. The goal is to teach me how to live in a manner that will please him and also gratify me.
Do you want to be controlled 24/7? Yes, but not as if I were a puppet that could only move when my strings are pulled. Our relationship is one that is very nurturing for me. He is in my thoughts constantly and in my heart always. I am learning how to bring joy to his life by making decisions on my own. The fact that I willingly take action in a manner he approves of means much more to both of us than if he were to give me directives on every little thing. I can’t imagine our relationship NOT being 24/7.
Or to be controlled only when your Master is there? My answer to this ties in with the answer above. If I were to only be controlled when he is near me, then am I showing him the respect and honor I should? It seems as though I would be less than he desires if I did not take the time to consider his preferences just because he is not around. After all, there is no way any two people can be together every single minute of every single day.
Can you be controlled from far away? Absolutely! If I am concerned with behaving, at all times, in a manner that honors him, he does not have to be near.
By a phone call, thru a cam, by getting text messaged? It is easier to KNOW his preferences when I can communicate with him. Having said that, I am learning more about his thought processes every time we talk, so it is less difficult to figure out how he would like for me to react. This is one of those issues that just takes time. We both have taken time to get to know each other and continue to explore each other’s thoughts.
Can you follow his commands He gives you, without waiver? This is one I’m still working on! Most of the time I want to, but still have some shyness and/or personal issues to overcome. Most of his commands are very easy for me to follow. Every once in a while, though, he pushes me a bit. I know he is doing it intentionally and out of loving consideration. This has become easier as we’ve gotten to know each other better. I suspect there will be a day, in the near future, where I will be able to do this!
Without second thought as to how He choose to use you? I have to give the same answer here as I did to the last question. He knows my hard limits and takes them into consideration. There are many areas where my limits are not known and he is exploring those with me. He has already shown me that some activities I initially found distasteful can become quite erotic. When I realized how much it pleased him, something inside me just “clicked” and now it is an activity I joyfully consider. Again, this seems to come with more knowledge of and experience with my partner.
Can His control push you to your limits as He e-mails you? Oh, yes! Some of the assignments he has given me are done with this intention. I know he does it to determine where my head is at and to guide me towards his preference. He knows that it is easier for me to completely understand what he desires if I take every step in the process. When I have learned WHY and come to the same decision on my own, it is very easy to incorporate his preferences into mine.
Can the thought of control as He chooses drive you to wetness? Without a doubt! Even when he talks about something I’m not certain I can do, just knowing that I will make the attempt because he desires it creates excitement. I am his and he knows that!
Control to you, does it mean letting Him make every day choices for you? Yes, it does. Again, this is something that is specific to our relationship. He has earned my trust and I know that my best interests are always in his thoughts.
Choosing your food, dress, who you talk to, who you see? He has never made the attempt to micro-manage my life. I have received certain guidelines that I work to follow. Some have been more difficult than others, of course. Again, I know he sets these parameters with my interests in mind. His intentions are to help me become the best person I can be.
Or do you only want to be controlled in the life style? For me, the life style is a relationship. I can’t separate bedroom activity from the day-to-day actions. He showers me with love and compassion, offers me strength, encouragement and guidance, respects my needs and desires. Why would I not want that in every aspect of my life?
Controlled at play, be it with him or at a distance? I am his, completely. I think that says it all!
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Thursday, May 04, 2006
please welcome....
I've added a couple of bloggers to my links! Please welcome C and her blog, RnC Personal Correction. Many of you already know LadyK and she now has a blog here, The Key To My Heart.
Of course, you may already know that!
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Wednesday, May 03, 2006
where do those ideas go?????
Last night, as I was drifting off to sleep, I had a couple of great blog ideas....
This morning, they are gone. Evaporated into the ether. (Or maybe they leaked out of my ears and soaked into my pillow....)
Where do those ideas go? Why are they gone when I get to the computer?
Maybe being able to sleep better has a down side after all!
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