A Cry in the Dark

Friday, May 05, 2006

control tag responses....

This was a tag from the other site. There are some thoughts floating around in my head lately about this topic. As I read my responses, I decided to post them again. Hopefully, this will help the whisps coalesce into something I can verbalize!

What is control to you? For me, control means that I will follow his wishes and directives, whether he is present or not. We have spent, and continue to spend, a considerable amount of time talking about ourselves, our desires, our needs. I trust him to direct me in a manner that is not only in my best interests, but in his, as well. Knowing he wants me to be strong, independent, and capable of handling life on my own makes it easier for me. He takes such pride in my accomplishments that I WANT to improve my skills, try for those objectives, reach further than I would dare to do on my own. There have been situations where I wish he would just tell me what to do. Instead, he will discuss it with me and guide me to a decision. He is not interested in detailing every single action I take. The goal is to teach me how to live in a manner that will please him and also gratify me.

Do you want to be controlled 24/7? Yes, but not as if I were a puppet that could only move when my strings are pulled. Our relationship is one that is very nurturing for me. He is in my thoughts constantly and in my heart always. I am learning how to bring joy to his life by making decisions on my own. The fact that I willingly take action in a manner he approves of means much more to both of us than if he were to give me directives on every little thing. I can’t imagine our relationship NOT being 24/7.

Or to be controlled only when your Master is there? My answer to this ties in with the answer above. If I were to only be controlled when he is near me, then am I showing him the respect and honor I should? It seems as though I would be less than he desires if I did not take the time to consider his preferences just because he is not around. After all, there is no way any two people can be together every single minute of every single day.

Can you be controlled from far away? Absolutely! If I am concerned with behaving, at all times, in a manner that honors him, he does not have to be near.

By a phone call, thru a cam, by getting text messaged? It is easier to KNOW his preferences when I can communicate with him. Having said that, I am learning more about his thought processes every time we talk, so it is less difficult to figure out how he would like for me to react. This is one of those issues that just takes time. We both have taken time to get to know each other and continue to explore each other’s thoughts.

Can you follow his commands He gives you, without waiver? This is one I’m still working on! Most of the time I want to, but still have some shyness and/or personal issues to overcome. Most of his commands are very easy for me to follow. Every once in a while, though, he pushes me a bit. I know he is doing it intentionally and out of loving consideration. This has become easier as we’ve gotten to know each other better. I suspect there will be a day, in the near future, where I will be able to do this!

Without second thought as to how He choose to use you? I have to give the same answer here as I did to the last question. He knows my hard limits and takes them into consideration. There are many areas where my limits are not known and he is exploring those with me. He has already shown me that some activities I initially found distasteful can become quite erotic. When I realized how much it pleased him, something inside me just “clicked” and now it is an activity I joyfully consider. Again, this seems to come with more knowledge of and experience with my partner.

Can His control push you to your limits as He e-mails you? Oh, yes! Some of the assignments he has given me are done with this intention. I know he does it to determine where my head is at and to guide me towards his preference. He knows that it is easier for me to completely understand what he desires if I take every step in the process. When I have learned WHY and come to the same decision on my own, it is very easy to incorporate his preferences into mine.

Can the thought of control as He chooses drive you to wetness? Without a doubt! Even when he talks about something I’m not certain I can do, just knowing that I will make the attempt because he desires it creates excitement. I am his and he knows that!

Control to you, does it mean letting Him make every day choices for you? Yes, it does. Again, this is something that is specific to our relationship. He has earned my trust and I know that my best interests are always in his thoughts.

Choosing your food, dress, who you talk to, who you see? He has never made the attempt to micro-manage my life. I have received certain guidelines that I work to follow. Some have been more difficult than others, of course. Again, I know he sets these parameters with my interests in mind. His intentions are to help me become the best person I can be.

Or do you only want to be controlled in the life style? For me, the life style is a relationship. I can’t separate bedroom activity from the day-to-day actions. He showers me with love and compassion, offers me strength, encouragement and guidance, respects my needs and desires. Why would I not want that in every aspect of my life?

Controlled at play, be it with him or at a distance? I am his, completely. I think that says it all!

Posted by WistfulWench :: 2:11 PM :: 3 comments